Sunday, February 22, 2009

Letter Five- Jealousy

Dear Lisa 18,

Jealously is a curse.

It is a clear indication that you feel unworthy or not good enough.
That you place yourself under another, in your own eyes.
Get a handle on it now Lisa or it will run through your life forever.

Start with self love and allow that to be the guide in dealing with this.

jealousy, envy, coveting , what ever you call it- they are all the same- emotions that zap your power and integrity.

I know you will deny it, the feelings of jealousy you have and that is a part of it as well.

Self denial.

Start by becoming aware of this emotion.

Awareness is all it takes to fight it.

Lisa 45

letter four - Marriage part one

Dear Lisa23,

I was wanting to share some thoughts on marriage, for despite everything you believe to be true right now, this is something that will be a large part of the future for you.

Contribute to the marriage and be always aware of the role you play within this union.

A central role.

A man is a man, not a woman with a penis- he does not think like a woman, act like her, or react like her- save your self a lot of heart ache and learn this now, early on.

Never argue about money, never.

You are to marry a good man ,Marc, - love him well, tell him so- keep the marriage young and vital.
Never lie- his trust in you is pure.

On this note i tell you to be open, honest and to share the thoughts you have regarding life.
Be a part of his life but not his life and vise versa.

Always, keep your friends- girlfriends are priceless and you must make the time to have lunch or dinner occasionally.
Life doesn't stop because you marry, it alters yes, but doesn't end.
Pursue your interests, keep your friends and know that black days fade to grey very fast if you allow them to.

Ironing undies and hankies is not necessary, however you should always have plenty of fruit in the house.

Make time for dating ( him of course), and say Thank You.

He likes to think he is boss, so allow him this illusion but never bring home a baby chicken without his prior approval.

Talk is important, so is alone time.
For each of you.
Don't fuss about his need to touch base with his parents once or twice a week; it is that sort of loyalty that makes him the husband he is.

Bide your time well my angel and eventually he will bow to pressure and agree to having a dog- however, I'm afraid your days of cat ownership are over when you leave Dads house.

I'm not going to tell you marriage is easy or without ups and downs, but it can be good if you are both pulling in the same direction.
Life will bring you some surprises Lisa- allow yourself the opportunity to grow.

If another man should catch your eye ( or you, his) and this may happen, stop and think hard before making your next move.
Consider the situation from a point of reality rather than fantasy.


Then go home.

Be happy, enjoy the life you have.


Ps- you will be fine, but the snoring never changes- sorry

Saturday, February 21, 2009

letter three

Dear Lisa 22,

Why, why, are you going camping ??
You HATE camping !!

I know enough to know that you are doing it to impress Marc, and while it might impress him now, i can assure you it wont impress him so much when, he finds out in a few years time, that your real idea of camping is a 5 star motel with room service.

Sweetheart, be honest about who you are .........
don't add bits and subtract bits to suit him

it gets you no where fast.

be you always

love ,
Lisa 45

letter two

Dear Lisa,

Despite the fact i know you wont agree, you are looking pretty good my girl.
I know the pressure you feel to try and fit in with the others and i tell you that really, you are just perfect the way you are.

Your hair is a wonderful natural colour and your height is the envy of your friends.
Keep walking, it will help keep you fit and wear those size 12 blue jeans every chance you get.
They look great.
You look great.

Please think twice about letting anyone pluck your eyebrows- Mum is right, they are a beautiful, perfect shape and to alter them is a tragedy.

Spend as much time as you can with Nana over the next year or so, and don't worry too much if you find yourself between jobs in the near future- this is a plan of the universe ( don't roll your eyes) and you will find yourself with much to do in the meantime.

By now you have probably realised that you wont marry David L.
I can promise you something better is in store.

Pay your board to dad on time- you know how he stresses about money and NEVER buy a red car.

Times are changing fast for you Lisa, please take my word that everything will be OK.


PS......the way you say 'garbage' to dad every time he tries to talk to you ?
.......well.................dont...........karma will kick you in the ass when you have a 16 year old son of your own.

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Letter One- Introduction

Letter One- 13/2/2009

I am now at this time, 45 years old whereas you , my dear little Lisa are barely 20.

I am a Mother moving fast into my cronage- you are a maiden, the path ahead is for your choosing.

And so i will write you these letters, each with a certain topic or maybe none at all.

I will share these lessons of my path but will not infringe upon your path, for what you have to experience, I cannot say.

That is your journey- the journey that brings you to me.

I will write to you about life, love, money, success, religion, children, marriage, respnsibility and personal growth.

I will share with you, what i wish i knew as you start out on this journey.

You, to me, are Lil- for in truth, you are still a babe- i can sense your annoyancce at this 'label' and i smile- if only you knew.

(you are also as thin as you are ever going to be, but thats another story )
So here we go little one.

My journey
Your Journey
Our journey

Blessed be