letter four - Marriage part one

Dear Lisa23,

I was wanting to share some thoughts on marriage, for despite everything you believe to be true right now, this is something that will be a large part of the future for you.

Contribute to the marriage and be always aware of the role you play within this union.

A central role.

A man is a man, not a woman with a penis- he does not think like a woman, act like her, or react like her- save your self a lot of heart ache and learn this now, early on.

Never argue about money, never.

You are to marry a good man ,Marc, - love him well, tell him so- keep the marriage young and vital.
Never lie- his trust in you is pure.

On this note i tell you to be open, honest and to share the thoughts you have regarding life.
Be a part of his life but not his life and vise versa.

Always, keep your friends- girlfriends are priceless and you must make the time to have lunch or dinner occasionally.
Life doesn't stop because you marry, it alters yes, but doesn't end.
Pursue your interests, keep your friends and know that black days fade to grey very fast if you allow them to.

Ironing undies and hankies is not necessary, however you should always have plenty of fruit in the house.

Make time for dating ( him of course), and say Thank You.

He likes to think he is boss, so allow him this illusion but never bring home a baby chicken without his prior approval.

Talk is important, so is alone time.
For each of you.
Don't fuss about his need to touch base with his parents once or twice a week; it is that sort of loyalty that makes him the husband he is.

Bide your time well my angel and eventually he will bow to pressure and agree to having a dog- however, I'm afraid your days of cat ownership are over when you leave Dads house.

I'm not going to tell you marriage is easy or without ups and downs, but it can be good if you are both pulling in the same direction.
Life will bring you some surprises Lisa- allow yourself the opportunity to grow.

If another man should catch your eye ( or you, his) and this may happen, stop and think hard before making your next move.
Consider the situation from a point of reality rather than fantasy.

Stop.
Think.

Then go home.

Be happy, enjoy the life you have.

love,
Lisa45

Ps- you will be fine, but the snoring never changes- sorry